I actually worked in a pet shop, and hand raised a few cockatiels once upon a time, there is specific food for baby birds that you mix like formula, be prepared because it's round the clock keeping them warm and fed, will the parents let you touch he/she? Have they rejected her or are they showing signs of aggression?
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Our Cockatiel needs help
by outoftheorg inwe have a male cockatiel and were given a female.
after almost 2 yrs together they began to mate.. we thought it was cute.
then she started laying eggs.
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New Member :)
by Oh Jebus, Save Me From Your Followers! injust a newbie here trying to aquaint myself.
i can' t say how thrilled i was to find out that this site existed!
it was actually shown to me by my sister - who by the way - with you're help- has seen the truth about the "truth" and is in the process of learning to live a normal life.
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Welcome sis, I was wondering how long till you would post! Others who know of the Simpson's episode eh, we're definitely in good company LOL My sis is great, very funny and more talkative than I I'm sure she'll surpass my post count in 2 days or less haha
Welcome diva too!!
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Renewal of Wedding Vows - What is the JW position?
by pratt1 inalthough i am inactive, my mother is a pioneer and extremely loyal to her faith.
next year she and my father will celebrate 45 years together, and since they only had a small civil wedding, i though it would be nice to give them an anniversary party including renewal of their wedding vows.
i mentioned this to my wife and she thought that she was told that jw's do not believe in this practice.
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I have an aunt, she and her husband who got baptized, but is currently WAY inactive (I always thought he was smarter than he looked ) recently renewed their vows on a cruise, she is definitely heavy in the JW way-I can't get into specifics but she's a lifer for sure, in a way it's like your parent's situation, so if they did it, I would think it's ok, I agree w/ the pp's about the absurdity of even having to worry it's "not" ok...
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How has your marriage been affected by leaving the WTS?
by Leander init's been exactly 2 years since i stopped attending jw meetings and it's taken a toll on my marriage.
i expected as much but i guess you can never really prepare for the pain you have to go through when one mate no longer believes in the same things they once did.
i think my wife has honestly tried hard (as have i) to make the relationship work but i think we're both realizing that there are some really large issues before us that will never be resolved.
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My experience has been completely different, I was raised 3rd gen. jw, I married a non believer, who thankfully was wonderful and "respected my beliefs"-poor guy! I kept thinking he'd convert to jwism but, thank God, he had more sense than that! He was always making subtle comments about how "it's ok to celebrate anniversaries but not birthdays", or "I don't believe God cares who's wearing the most expensive clothes to the meetings, so why is everyone showing off while claiming to be modest" etc., etc....I brushed all this off a million times really, in after thought I have a lot of guilt for what I put him through, his family was less than pleased that he was going along w/ my no holidays, and no transfusions and that has caused so much grief for 3.5 years, especially once we had a child. I still severely dislike his parents for stuff they did/said, I was-still am a GREAT person, they just couldn't move past the religion issue...I digress. It took me a little over 3.5 years of being married to find this site after hearing about the UN affiliation and I'm completely done w/ it! I guess this is my long way of saying that I had nearly 26 years of brainwashing in me, a bit over 3.5 of that wasted my husband's life, and sadly, nearly 2 years of my son's life...what counts here is that I eventually DID listen to all those small comments, and now things are wonderful-it is possible!
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I'm new, where to start...
by Quietly Patient inhi everyone, i just wanted to sorta introduce myself and ask for some help...i've been lurking here for a while, i'm a 3rd generation witness, but thankfully never got baptized as i never liked being told what to do!
i've been fading for a good while now, ever since i moved out 7 years ago, only going to meetings and the memorial sporatically, of course with my mom and grandmother constantly pushing me to go back etc, etc, etc!
3 years ago i married a non jw, and i have a son who will be 2 soon, ever since i had him i kept feeling so guilty that i wasn't "doing the right thing" by him, and that if jehovah was going to judge him on my "works" then we both would be fried, that is such a horrible thought as a parent... anyway, i happened to do a search about who knows what approx.
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Hi everyone, I just wanted to sorta introduce myself and ask for some help...I've been lurking here for a while, I'm a 3rd generation witness, but thankfully never got baptized as I never liked being told what to do! I've been fading for a good while now, ever since I moved out 7 years ago, only going to meetings and the memorial sporatically, of course with my mom and grandmother constantly pushing me to go back etc, etc, ETC! 3 years ago I married a non jw, and I have a son who will be 2 soon, ever since I had him I kept feeling so guilty that I wasn't "doing the right thing" by him, and that if Jehovah was going to judge him on my "works" then we both would be fried, that is such a horrible thought as a parent... Anyway, I happened to do a search about who knows what approx. a month ago, and stumbled upon here, I've been lurking and I went into chat a few days ago once I made my "final decision" as I call it. In my heart of hearts, I know I'm doing the right thing, what's best for my family and for my son, not subjecting him to the isolation and the mind numbing hours of studying and going to the hall and so on and so forth, and I've gathered so much insight reading the posts here, clearly there are LOTS of things that do not add up in the organization...and yet, I still have a voice in my head screaming "you're doing the wrong thing, you know this is the TRUTH", but yet I DON'T! If that makes any sense??? Logically it is all crap, but I've been around it for 26 years, and all that brainwashing just I guess doesn't go away, I guess I should ask does it ever go away??? I was feeling very confident about my decision but dreading telling my mom's family, at the same time I'm planning a birthday party for my son-lots of conflicting emotions. I don't know if I can even enjoy this party, part of me just feels like I just have to force myself to do it.... So I have been ok, until my mom came to visit this weekend, I honestly intended to hide all of my thoughts for a bit longer, but we ended up being up till 4 am last night "talking" I brought up my reservations on the UN issue, the child abuse, the lack of teaching kids to become individuals, 1914, and to which I met all kinds of excuses and "I'll look more into this and get back to you", on the 1914 thing, she flat out told me she wasn't good with the date stuff, but yet I guess she just buys into it because someone else tells her it's right!?!?!? Then she asked where I was getting all my info "from the internet?" while rolling her eyes, I told her YES, she mumbled something about apostates using OLD MATERIAL that has been corrected, and I was I asked her doesn't she ever wonder why they frown on anyone doing research on the religion and other religions encourage it, if they're right why would they mind if you checked it out for yourself???? TO which I got the "you must watch for bad association" comment along w/ Satan putting things like this into people's minds to deceive people... I didn't sleep last night, the last thing I left her with was saying "don't ever let those people at the kh look at you with pity because my sister and I aren't doing what their version of the right thing is, you hold your head up high that you raised two children who are independent thinkers and who are HAPPY". I just couldn't hear "BUT I KNOW IT IS THE TRUTH" one more time without screaming... She left this morning, I got a phone call after their meeting today saying what a good meeting it was and how I should've been there cause it was about Jesus warning that dark people would try to cause people to stray "how I should've been there", sigh, I'm sometimes afraid of "what if they're right?" but overwhelmingly I can never go back, I don't want to go back...is this the only relationship I will have with her now??? I don't think she would shun me (well maybe when she figures out we will be doing holidays), but what kind of relationship is that if everytime she will just harp on and on about her "truth" and tell me I should call my grandma, my grandma btw is the shining example of a witness-71 y.o and still pioneering away, so you can just imagine, my mom is hoping she will straighten me out.... I was so hoping there was some common sense, something that would cause her to go, wait maybe I should question this, instead of thinking somehow a demon is convincing me to think this way (because that is SO rational to believe)... I don't want to hurt her, and lets face it, if you still believed what the JW's teach, then you know what she must believe is going to happen to both of her children and her only grandchild... Anyway I'm sorry I got so long winded, it's so nice to find a place where people can relate and understand, my dh is very understanding but he was never in the witness thing so he can't totally get me, I'm lucky to have my sister, I guess I need more of a support system, that the guilt of leaving will subside one day, right???? Meanwhile I'll be here repeating over and over "you're doing the right thing", and trying to ignore the what if they are right voice, am I the only one???